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It has been said that the two things people fear the most are death and public speaking. Hidden deep within our core is a level of fear that can hinder us from making leaps and changes in our lives. From phobias to worse case scenarios, (fear of snakes or heights) we all have some fears that make us hesitate and take a step back. But one of the most popular fears that many may deny is fear of CRITICISM. That’s right. “What will people think?” “What will people say?”
Now I know we say with our mouths most of the time we could care less what the “haters” and “naysayers” think or say but the truth is this very thing has kept many people from putting themselves out there and living their dreams.
But here’s the real truth, there are times when our behavior is questionable and we draw some criticism from others. It’s inevitable! You won’t be liked, friended or appealing to everyone. Heck, you may even find out that those people you call “family” and ”friends” are among the most critical you’ll ever meet. But lets face it here, in today’s world with modern day technology and social media millions of people have access to your life. And when you decide to put your dreams, hopes, goals, feelings and beliefs out there you’re unavoidably opening yourself up to critics!
So I want to offer you 3 Necessary Reasons why you must overcome THE FEAR OF CRITICISM, so you can move on and get yourself out there and enjoy your life and live the life you know you want to live.
Truth & Tip #1: Criticism is a part of the journey to a more fulfilling, successful life.
No matter what you decide to do whether you decide to stay stuck in an unhappy life OR you leap in a big way toward your vision of better living, you’re going to draw criticism. So like my Mom used to say “you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t”. Get it out of your mind that what everyone thinks of you is gospel truth! It isn’t always truth, its often just their opinion! Even if they draw a very persuasive and somewhat accurate picture of your past and the mistakes you’ve made, it still isn’t who you are. Think of criticism as an opportunity for you to polish your confidence and walk in boldness.
Truth & Tip #2: Allowing criticism to control your emotions can cause an ugly upheaval of defensiveness.
You know I had a mentor years ago who told me if you allow others to control your emotions you’re doomed to failure. We all want to come out swinging when it seems that we’re under attack right? It’s a natural (primal) instinct to want to protect yourself. Even if you’re wrong and they are right. Take a deep breath, turn away for a moment and calm down. I know, I know. You’re thinking “but they’re going to think I’m a wimp or punking out because I didn’t follow up with my own attack.” Let’s focus on what’s really important here…you grow stronger and more powerful when you learn to let it roll off your back. If you try to “fight” every critic that comes your way while you’re working on your dreams, these distractions will wreak havoc on your character, identity, reputation and credibility. Yeah criticism doesn’t feel good and yes it burns, but you lose a lot more than a “fight” if you continue to allow it to control your reactions and emotions. Whose in charge of you? YOU ARE! So unless your dream is to become a professional boxer or UFC champion I suggest you separate yourself from the critical remark learn from it what you can and MOVE ON!
Truth & Tip #3: Analyze the critique carefully, perhaps what’s being said is constructive and helpful and at first glance may seem harsh but may help in the long run.
We live in a world where self expression and practicing your freedom of speech is celebrated. Now I’m not saying everyone has something of value to say BUT it is a freedom that even the most ignorant take advantage of. In this case though, stop and think about what’s being expressed to you. Take a good look at who the critic is and whether this person is really trying to hurt you or help you. It may be hard to practice this at first but rather than blowing up completely without thinking listen 
reservedly and respond calmly. Am I telling you to roll over and be a doormat here? UH ABSOLUTELY NOT! Realize who and whose you are {meekness isn’t weakness}. However some criticism from those we love and respect may help us to grow. Realize that everyone is not out to attack, hurt, harm, hate on or destroy you. Constructive positive criticism offers you an opportunity to do a heart and a head check. I’ve even witnessed people get out of line and completely livid in church! Yeah. All because they could not handle correction or constructive criticism.
This is a very touchy subject for a lot of us. No, not everyone is going to agree with you on every decision or move you make in life. Heck, some people who read this will have some criticism about this blog on criticism LOL> but the overarching goal here is to not allow these kinds of reactions from others (positive or negative) to control you and override your confidence.
Accept that criticism can cause conflict, don’t be a doormat for anyone to kick around or walk on, believe in yourself, hold fast to your convictions, pray about it and bring it to a close and move on. Learn from constructive criticism and take advantage of these opportunities to improve yourself and your life. Sometimes the best reaction to criticism is walking away. I’ve even said to people when I didn’t agree with them “Thank you, now I know how you feel and what you believe.” Will all exchanges be this calm….of course not. Put a Band-Aid on your ego and your pride, accept that you can’t change how people think and what they believe, remember you are more than a conqueror, pull up your boot straps, brush your shoulders off and walk on!
“Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Aristotle
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